IF YOU HAVE SOUND CHARACTER, YOU WILL FIND THAT YOU GENERALLY DO NOT WORRY ABOUT YOUR REPUTATION.
Thomas Jefferson once said that a majority is one man with the courage of his convictions.
 
If you have the courage that comes from the sincere conviction that you are a person of sound character, an honest, dependable, kind, and caring person, you will never have to worry about what others think of you.
 
If you know in your own heart that you are a good and decent person, you can meet life's challenges head-on and without fear of what others think.
 
Live Freely!

IT ISN'T THE TRADING DEFEAT, BUT RATHER YOUR MENTAL ATTITUDE TOWARD IT, THAT KICKS YOUR ASS!

There are many things in life that you cannot control (especially the Market), but you can always control your attitude toward them.
 
Defeat is never permanent unless you allow it to be so.
 
When you have a positive attitude, you will recognize failure for the impostor that it is and realize that it is really a learning experience, a valuable lesson that will help you succeed with the next attempt. Ask yourself: What could I have done differently that would have altered the outcome? What can I do in the future to minimize problems and mistakes? What did I learn from this experience that I can put to good use next time?
 
If you approach obstacles and setbacks with a positive attitude, you will be surprised how quickly you can turn defeat into victory.
 
Live Freely!

clemen

To give every individual a great passion to live, work and play freely.

A POSITIVE MIND FINDS A WAY IT CAN BE DONE. A NEGATIVE MIND LOOKS FOR ALL THE WAYS IT CAN'T BE DONE.

Someone once said, "There are no truths; there are only perceptions of truth."
 
Whether or not you accept this statement, whatever you believe to be true will become your reality. Your subconscious mind will believe anything you tell it-if you repeat the words often and with conviction.
 
When you are faced with a daunting task that you've never attempted before, focus on the potential for success, not on the possibilities for failure.
 
Break the job down into smaller elements and tackle each one separately. The only difference between success and failure in any job is your attitude toward it.

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Live Freely!

clemen

To give every individual a great passion to live, work and play freely.

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YOUR MIND IS THE ONLY THING YOU CONTROL EXCLUSIVELY. DON'T GIVE IT AWAY TOO FREELY THROUGH USELESS ARGUMENTS.

You may spend your time and your energy-both physical and mental-in pursuits that yield the greatest return on your investment, or you may fritter it away on activities that will never bear fruit.
 
Since your mind is entirely your own domain, you may choose to use it to constructive ends, or you can waste mind power-and time-on useless arguments that go nowhere.
 
There is a vast difference between a spirited intellectual debate and a petty argument. When you discuss concepts, your own knowledge is expanded through the interaction with another thinking person. When you allow yourself to be dragged into arguments about insignificant things, the result will be a dulling of both the mind and the spirit.

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Live Freely!

clemen 

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Posted here just to remind myself and hope it serves as an inspiration to you all as well.

Dear James
 
Thanks for your feedback.

When you develop a Positive Mental Attitude, you immediately set yourself apart from the crowd.

You become a leader because positive thinking leads to positive action, while negative thinking leads to apathy and inaction. When you take the initiative in any situation, others will follow simply because they like to associate with people who know where they are going. In order to lead, however, you must first be willing to discipline yourself...

The first rule of leadership is never to ask others to do what you are unwilling to do yourself. You can lead only by example.

Being a leader requires you to work harder and longer than the others and proving you are the master of your own destiny.

Live Freely!
clemen

1st, baby shaun was unexpectedly, for the unknown reason, hit by seizure and unconscious. And for once, i thought i was gonna lost my loved one... i was totally helpless for that moment. Luckily, there was no damaged done except i got myself 3 years older after this incident. Doc couldn't even do a thing except to advise us to pay close attention on him. day and night. Should this happen again, we shall do a thorough brain CAT scan on Shaun... to see what goes wrong, in his brain...

2nd, am getting weaker, physically & mentally. I believe, if i am not mentally strong, or at least keep it in a less stressful and more relax mode, my physically fitness will not go better either. They go parallel with each other. I Set a goal early in this year that i will be more health consciuos and never get myself fall sick, but, up to now, it has been my 4th time this year. 1st, i had food poisoning (ok, this i can't control), spent 1.5 days on bed. Just about getting back on my foot, baby shaun gave me my biggest nightmare in my whole life, ever. Then, 2 days later,  i was hit by this damn flu virus... that made me dizzy for 2 more days. Worse, it's fell on my Options Trading Championship. The timing couldn't be better...

 3rd, i broke my own trading rule. Do not trade when i get sick. I have only myself to blame for. Over the 3 trading days stretch, i lost USD15k. Not because my brain couldn't function properly, matter of fact, all the stocks (10 of them) that i pick, have successfully beaten analysts' estimate, reported outstanding quarterly revenue and guidance. But, the market has no mercy on me. In fact, the market doesn't care at all, it doesn't care how hard working i am, it doesn't care how much effort i put on, it just hit me right on me face. I fell hardly, indeed. I shall rise again. But this time, it will take me longer time... I learnt something out of it, for the least. What i can say is... just accept the fact the, the market is dynamic.

4th, what's the big deal of the trading thingy??? simply bcoz it's my project/plan to get me out of  my rat race. This championship is an opportunity to test on my system, which i have been working on for the past 3 years.  And i failed miserably. There are some missing pieces yet to be found in my system... i have to start from square one. I lost the war, but i haven't lost the battle yet.

Lastly, i need an avenue for me to express all my bad feelings and emotions  All my loved ones, are so caught out in life, who do not really seem to have spare time, or perhaps to bother, to listen at all... No, i am not asking for your pity. I am not asking for your advice. I am just asking for you to be there with me... while i am pursuing my dreams, alone... is there too much for you?

I am a total failure, indeed. I just realized, this textmalaysia site is my best place for self express afterall.  Great job, ddcat!

Well, I have my own version too. Don't take my words for it. You must experience Love yourselves through life, and that's the only way that you can truly learn what Love is.

Love begins with accepting of who the person is, and who the person is not. It's a stand that i made for my loved ones. In regardless of what's right or wrong and what's good or bad. And we can't trade love for love, because there is no equality in love, it's never been fair in Love, get it right, my friends.

We Love, when we are being generous to open up ourselves,  being authentic to ourselves and others, and being vulnarable at the same time... As such, i say, it takes courage and strength for ones to stay on course, to learn and to grow together and to love, unconditionally for each other.

And, always remember, we can't love, when we expect. We can't love, when we judge. We can't love, when we compare and we can't love, when we doubt.

Simple huh? But it's never easy to do though...

If you are consistently not happy, your men will not happy too. And if your men think that they have been "trying" all the possible ways to make you happy but onli to find out they are a failure...your men will withdraw and do something to fulfill his own needs instead.

Listen Men, juz when you think you have been doing all the possible ways to love and to mk your women happy... Yes, you have done good job EXCEPT fulfulling your women's needs. i mean real needs!

Got it? :)

i have a journal that has been with me for almost 3 years. I have stopped filling the page for more than a year. Happened that tonight, i flip thru the pages and found this essential word that can shape our lives powerfully that i wanna share with you all here. I learnt this word from Landmark education- the expert in Anthology - the science and the art of Being that shaped who i am being :)

Responsibility begins with the willingness to be cause in the matter of one's life. Ultimately, it is a context from which one chooses to live.

Responsibility is not burden, fault, praise, blame, credit, shame or guilt. In responsibility, there is no evaluation of good or bad, right or wrong. There is simply "What's so, and your stand".

Being responsibility starts with the willingness to deal with a situation from the view of life that you are the generator of what you do, what you have and what you are. That is not the truth. It is a place to stand.

No one can make you responsible, nor can you impose responsibility on another. It is a grace you give yourself - an empowering context that leaves you with a say in the matter of life.

Got it? Do write to me if you wanna know more :)

Juz watched this Brother Bear 2 with shaun and jonathan. Well, acherly, they didn't really watch it except for the 1st few starting minutes... not that it's boring. juz that both baby shaun & monster jonathan's attention span last onli for 10 minutes most for movie :)

Again, like Brother Bear 1, my tears dropped at the end of the story... As usual, Disney never failed to put a happy ending in its cartoon movies. This time BB2 is not exceptional as well. At the end of the story, for the greatest Love, Nita willingly transformed herself into bear bear, and Nita & Kenai eventually get together and live happily ever after... this sounds too ideal in this real world leh!

I love the ending song very very much. It's (It will be me) sung by Melissa Etheridge. Very rich & meaningful. Well, Good things are meant to be shared... :)

It will be me – Melissa Etheridge

Friendly(6), Cheerful(4), Open Minded(3), Humor(2),  Rebellious(2), Talkative(2), Smart(2), Kind, Joyful, Strong Personality, Supportive, Polite, Active, Adaptable,  Sensible,  Outspoken,  Opinionated, Well Groomed, Positive, Neat, Actor (Not natural), Arrogant, Responsible,  Dramatic, Dynamic, Creative.

To me, an authentic friendship/intimacy relationship will only come from we being loving and open to each others. And this really requires strength, courage and honesty to do so.

Ones must always do ""self disclosure" to avoid others' assumption and to avoid the so called "perception distortion". Juz like the above personalities test... i do agree with a few of them but not most of them.

My friends, please be open... i wont eat you, i will love you more instead!

I love Peanut Butter. The crunchy one but not the creamy one of course.

I love Sex too! Well, considering at this stage of my life, it's said that this is my Golden Age of Peak Performance, both in Career and Sex! But, sad be told, neither both are in my peak performance now! ok, i know you guys are going to laugh at me... suit yourselves. This is not the intention on my post here :)

Now, how could Peanut Butter got anything to do with Sex???

Please stay on with me till the end then you will know. I'll keep this short and i promise no more Part I and Part II for this topic :)

Ok, i have this wild/weird idea, coming from my high interest in human psychology & the current "in" thing on NLP. 

i remember when i studied psychology during my stay in college time, there was this famous Noble prize winner scientist Ivan Pavlov's research on the Classical Conditioning regarding the human/animal learning behavior or something like that. To simplify, he used a bell instead of food to stimulate the unconditional response from the dog's salivation. Meaning, 1) Before conditioning; Dog sees food -> salivation happens. Dog hears ringer from bell -> no salivation. 2) During conditioning: Dog sees food and hears ringer-> salivation happens. 3) After conditioning: Dog hears ringer -> salivation happens.

Below are the conditioning procedure as well as one of the examples for Classical Conditioning for your reference.

http://www.psy.pdx.edu/PsiCafe/Overheads/CondProcedure.htm

http://www.psy.pdx.edu/PsiCafe/Just4Fun/Jokes/ClassCondThesis.htm

My NLP encounters started 4 years ago when i registered myself on one of the world top success coaches Tony Robbins' "Unleash the Power Within" seminar. I then further my interest of NLP searching and application by attending his advance "Date with Destiny" seminar. After that, I also enrolled myself in the specialize NLP course to deepen this subject and its application. However, I did not go further as NLP practitioner although it juz required me another step...a quantum leap :)

Ok, NLP application is very very broad but i'll touch something very lil' particularly on Pavlov's Classical Conditioning. Hope this will help you to understand and apply it onto yourselves. It's very useful to break habits... particularly on quitting smoking. Gay, this is for you :). OK, to further simplify the processes & steps during NLP conditioning part... you hv to put yourselves in an extremely intense state of pain or pleasure then anchor it with stimuli (can be certain actions like body movements/ language like words and music/any objects like the bell & whistle in the abv examples and etc). This hv to be done with repetition of at least 3 - 4 times. Each times, with the same or more intensity state of pain or pleasure.

Now, this is the main subject of my post here....  If my favorite  Peanut Butter is the stimuli, the intense state of Pleasure is generated by my climax during having sex... and i repeat the conditioning a couple times!  hmm... something interesting to think about...

i have no doubts on Pavlov's & NLP's theory & application. Let's juz say, if my experiment were to be executed correctly & flawless with precise effectiveness and efficiency...  I wonder, next time, if i see Peanut Butter, will i wet myself??? :)  

Or maybe the side effect may occur that, during Sex, i may smell my favorite peanut butter leh... but either way, i think is a win win situation. don't you think so?!

ps: this post is not meant for treating ur weird habit neither does it serve the purpose of providing the intellectual knowledge of NLP and Pavlov's Classical Conditioning theory and application. I hold no responsible on your missed carry on your own experiment or whatsoever!